Are you in a toxic relationship? Do you want to end it, but not sure how?
Toxic relationship can cause harm to you, physically and emotionally. Sometimes you can be in a toxic relationship and not even know it.
Dating is the time when most people put their best foot forward. So if you are seeing the warning signs of a toxic relationship, it may be time to end it.
Here are some steps to help you recognize and end a toxic relationship:
Acknowledge: Recognize there is a problem. Sometimes it’s easy to overlook things. But does he always seem to be making up for something he’s done to hurt you. Take off the rose colored glasses and see the situation for what it is. You need to admit that a problem exists before you can solve it.
Identify: Does he criticize, complain, drain, shame or blame you for everything that happens in his life. That’s only a few of the warning signs of a toxic relationship. If you see that he’s exhibiting these signs now while you’re dating, trust me things are not going to get any better in time. As he becomes more comfortable his true personality will begin to show through and these behaviors will become worse.
Analyze: You need to decide if the positives of your relationship, outweighs the negative. If you don’t analyze the relationship and see for yourself that the cost of maintaining the relationship is too great you may be likely to give in and go back to him.
Communication: Confront him. Try to be neutral. This is not the time for anger on your part. Tell him what’s bothering you about his behavior and how it makes you feel. You can ask him to change the behavior if you want to give the relationship a chance. If not, cut all ties with him.
Separation: Get away. You need to heal. Even a few days in a toxic realtionship can cause harm. Regain your happiness and self-esteem. Take time to assess what’s important to you. Build a support network of friends and family. Start looking at why you accepted this toxic man into your life.
Rules and Limits: You need to set clear rules and limits. Set a standard of behavior for yourself and any man you allow into your life. Make a commitment to rebuild your life so that you prevent toxic people from entering it. If that means getting professional help or joining a support group, do it. Do whatever you need to do to ensure that all of your future relationships are healthy.
Zero-Tolerance: In time your rules and limits will become part of your life. You will have established your boundaries and probably had them tested. But you need to have a zero-tolerance policy for toxic people. Never put yourself in another situation where your self-esteem and self-worth and trudged upon by anyone. Always be on the lookout for these negative people and be ready to remove them from your life as soon as you can.
Following these steps will allow you to end your toxic relationship. Regain your life. And be prepared for making healthy relationship choices.
Psychologist Dr. Lillian Glass, author of “Toxic People,” says you are in a toxic relationship if you feel dragged down, angry, worn out, deflated, belittled or confused when interacting with a person. A healthy relationship, conversely, makes you feel energized, powerful and good about yourself.
Which one do you want?
Source by Shoshana Jackson