Cross cultural relationships can be a wonderful thing, as they are exciting, interesting, and educational, but they do take considerable work, and you have to pay attention, especially in the beginning. If you’ve never been in a cross-cultural relationship because you were afraid, I’d recommend you listen to the song; “I Hope You Dance,” by Lee Ann Womack. Do it now, then you may read the rest of my article.
You see, life is to be lived, don’t be afraid. Not long ago, there were two very good articles on Relationships” back-to-back” in Psychology Today Magazine. Now, I must say I try very hard not to read that magazine, as I don’t always have a lot of great things to say about that profession, and I rarely read the touchy-feely articles on relationships in any magazine, perhaps like you I feel they are beneath me.
Still, you and I both know that these are very popular articles geared for the masses, and generally they are shallow in intellectual content, and quick reads. Thus, I just kept reading my Psychology Today magazine cover-to-cover this last go around, it was the March-April issue of 2010. In any case the two articles were;
- “The Good Guy Contract,” by Dr. Alex Likerman (page 42).
- “Marie Antoinette Meets Texting,” by Hara Estroff Marano in her ‘Unconventional Wisdom’ column.
In the first article was great advice for guys, as the title suggests, and it occurred to me that this is so important when dealing with cross cultural relationships. In the second article, Hara makes a great point when she states; “Attention is the currency of all relationships,” and to that point, I seriously cannot think of a more important thing to be realized if you are in a cross-cultural relationship. Perhaps, it could even be considered paramount.
In fact, it’s so important that I am surprised that Hara didn’t mention it. Indeed, Dr. Lickerman would also be wise to understand the value in his advice when dealing with the family and their culture surrounding such a relationship. Anyway, I hope You Dance, if you get this cross-cultural relationship chance. Well, that’s all I have to say. Sincerely, Lance.
Source by Lance Winslow