Couples giving and accepting gifts and other tangible and valuable things is a well-established relationship dynamic that actually deserves all the spotlight and talk imaginable. And here’s why, no relationship thrives without sharing — and that goes beyond the things you can see and touch.
Partners must also be able to give each other a corresponding amount of effort, respect, attention, love, affection…and yes…as many material things as they can afford. So if you’re in a relationship with a guy who has sharing issues, especially material things, don’t worry, your reaction to feeling uncomfortable in the relationship is understandable. And to fix it, here are 3 useful tips for you:
1. Talk to him about it
This is the first base of all relationship problems. Sometimes people do bad things not with the intention of hurting, but because they think it’s the right thing to do. By refusing to say anything and pretending that everything is fine when it is not, you are not giving him the chance to know what you think about certain problems.
So whether it’s his stinginess or something else, don’t hesitate to talk to him about it first and give him the opportunity to become a new person.
2. Give him stuff
There is also something to be said for “leading by example”. In this case, find the things he needs, the gifts he will find most useful, and then give him as much as you can. One of the ways to teach people how to relate to you is to relate to them the same way. Of course, that doesn’t mean they’ll understand and treat you that way too, but it’s a step worth taking. Hope your man understands.
3- we hope you earn your own money?
You’re not asking too much if you want a man to share material things with you. And especially if getting gifts is your love language, that statement becomes much more specific. However, it’s important to know that if this is the kind of relationship you want, you shouldn’t just be willing to spend that money on him or shower it with gifts and material things, you actually have to BE CAPABLE OF IT. Earning your own money and being able to give her gifts and other things, no matter how small, gives the relationship a sense of reciprocity rather than parasitism.
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That said, it’s important to note that a stingy boyfriend and a broke boyfriend are not the same.