This relationship advice for women is something out of the ordinary. As women, you are always taught to be there for your man and to always support him and help build him up to be a better person. This isn’t always the best thing to do, especially if you want to improve your marriage. In fact, if you are too tolerant and have a “better luck next time” kind of attitude, you could be worsening your marriage and making your man lose respect for you. I’m going to talk about how you can encourage your man by lightly attacking him once in a while and why this works better.
1. Harden Up
Us men are generally born to be tougher, in every sense of the word. We have to be physically, emotionally and mentally strong. By telling us, “better luck next time”, you’re not applying enough pressure on us to improve ourselves.
The expectations are lower, we don’t want to achieve as much and we fall into a sluggish state where we don’t perform as well. By chastising us and adopting a “you can do better than that” attitude, you are making us stronger.
2. The Wrong Way To Do It
Now obviously, there’s a right way and wrong way to go about doing this. The wrong way to go about doing it is to completely disregard your man’s feelings and relentlessly tear him down all the time. Not good.
You have to see the amount of effort he’s put in, how important what he’s trying to achieve is to him and whether he’s getting any better. You basically have to coach him and help him improve. If he’s slack, tell him off. If he’s getting better acknowledge it.
3. The Right Way To Do It
Something else you can do is let him answer his own question. Ask him something like, “how do you think you went just then?” His answer will probably be enough motivation for himself to improve and do better next time.
Remember, it’s all about the right observation. Don’t tear him down when he’s down and out. That’s like kicking a competitor who’s already knocked out. It will only make things worse. Tear him down so that he can recover and be stronger next time.
This relationship advice for women is suitable for women who want to help their man improve in whatever pursuits they have. It’s not always a good idea to be lenient. We can’t respect you if you don’t help us improve. We would love it if you were hard on us once in a while, since it shows that you’re willing to harden up yourself to help us harden up too.
Source by J. Keys