When you have just broken up with someone and you feel that the breakup was a mistake, it is only natural for you to want to get your ex back and start over again. After all, it is only too easy to hurt someone you love when problems are plaguing the relationship.
But how do you work on getting your ex back when you know that he or she is still hurting? If you want to get your ex back and reverse the effects of your breakup, only one thing is for sure – sincerity is the key.
How to Show Sincerity
How do you show your ex that you are really sincere in wanting him or her back? The surest way to do so is to apologize for any wrongdoing you have committed, where you ended up hurting him or her badly. There is nothing more magical to the ears of someone you have hurt than saying, “I am sorry.”
For most people, saying you are sorry is usually enough. But if your ex was really hurt by what you did, a mere apology will not be sufficient for you to get your ex back. You will have to give some substance to your words, or else your ex will not believe you.
So you can put some meat in your words and make your apology more acceptable to your ex, you may need to think back to the time of your breakup and reflect upon the reasons why the breakup happened in the first place. A relationship is always a two-way street. Thus, even if you think that your ex was at fault for what happened that caused your breakup, chances are that you did something to make the matter worse. If you really want to get your ex back, you have to meet your ex halfway and be prepared to compromise to make your relationship work again.
If Showing Sincerity Does Not Work
What if, despite your apologies and your display of sincerity, your efforts still did not make you get your ex back? This only means that your ex was really hurt by what happened during your breakup.
In this case, the only thing you can do is to give your ex some space. Let your ex decide whether he or she wants you back or not. Just keep your doors open and at least try to be his or her friend, despite your breakup.
Source by Lea Hall